Breaking the Bondage of Narcissism

The more I thought about "My" story, I realized it's his story too. Whether he is able to admit it, own it, man up, is a whole nother tale.  Narcissists are good story tellers. They are really good at getting people to pity them. Sometimes the things in my head that he's told people about me, haunts me. I use to be someone that wanted the truth to be known. I'd fight for it. Go to any length to make sure it was told. But as I've gotten older and certainly from all that I've experienced, I've realized that the only person who needs the truth is ME. I lived in a lie for so long that being free from it is all that matters. Not what others think. Not what others have heard. I KNOW the truth. He KNOWS the truth. And honestly if others want to believe the lies he continues to tell, that's their agony. I don't live there anymore and THAT is MY story.  You get to a point where you realize that every single person that "believes" t...

The last 25 years of my life was like a 500,000 piece puzzle. That's 20,000 pieces a year. Almost 1700 pieces a month. 50 to 60 pieces a day.  Now imagine that being a real puzzle with actual pieces. Piles and piles of pieces that explained your life from beginning to end.  Along the way many pieces got lost, never to be found. But on the days when a piece fit just right... those are the ones worth remembering.  So why is it we only remember the days we struggled to find the missing piece or focused too long on the one that just wouldn't fit in that spot? Because those are the days we needed answers that would never come. Those are the days the picture on the puzzle had a clue, affirmation, just... one... more... piece.  I never finished that puzzle. I gave up on it after seeing too many of the areas to completion then destroyed. The last piece I held in my hand showed me too many truths and offered a painful aftermath. That last piece was what made it al...