Sober Drunk...


Congratulations! You've been sober for almost a year, again. But this time it's for real, right? Right! 
I can't wait to see how you're gonna make up for all the family dinners you missed. All the bedtime story times you weren't present for. And let's not forget the ER visits, school plays, parent-teacher conferences, dentist appts, sports, 1st days at school, birthdays and holidays you ruined. 
Yeah, this time there will be no disappointments! No more lawyers, court dates, jail time, prison sentences. No court ordered house arrest or work release. No more going hungry so you can go to the bar and buy your "friends" a round. Good thing the kids are no longer in need of diapers... phew! 
I am so happy for you! Especially your adult kids that believe in you because they were too young to remember the broken promises. Too young to remember you drunk at the track, or that time you were carried off the baseball field when you coached your sons team.
Nope... not falling for it again!  It won't be long before you're face down in your toilet. Pissing the bed every night. Putting innocent lives at risk cause you think 8 beers and 10 shots of Whiskey make you a better driver.  

Give it time....

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