Breaking the Bondage of Narcissism

When he wanted me, he wanted me to leave my kids, my grandsons, my home. He told me to let them fend for themselves and if they ended up homeless tough $#!+.  I knew if I left he would control when I saw them, how much time I spent with them. I knew this and I couldn't do it. I knew if they needed me, needed help he would prevent it.  I didn't bend. So he left. Within days he had his new "supply" and amazingly he calls the kids daily. He takes them out to eat. He asks to spend time with them.  No, I didn't need to get out of the way for him to want his kids. He's impressing her with his, "look at what a great Dad I am".  Sadly it will wear off and my kids will be crushed. Eventually he will stop making the effort cause it exhausts him and he already has her "locked in". She's the perfect candidate for his next victim. He told our youngest they have so much in common and she once dated a guy that stalked her.  Oh honey... you...

I have everything I need to destroy him. Problem is, he's too good at playing a victim. Has a back story for everything. An excuse to excuse his behavior, his actions, his choices.  He's already convinced this great guy he works with to start a business with him. The same kind of business we had together. He just needed someone smart enough to take the test and get the license.  This guy is going to be the biggest investor. B has convinced A that they are going to be rich. Don't get me wrong, B has the ability to make it happen. Don't all liars make the best salesmen?  A has a family. He's a Godly man. B is using this as a lure. Playing the "great Dad" who was an incredible "family man" and wants what's best for A and his family.  So what's the evidence? What could I possibly have that could put doubt in A's mind.  Court documents. A lawsuit. B moved here not to be closer to his kids. He ran from a company he stole $76,000...

Not the 5th DUI when he went to work release for 6mo. It wasn't the 6th DUI when he spent 6mo in County. Nor the 7th DUI when he was sentenced to 2 yrs in DOC (prison - only served 1 yr).  The image above is his most recent,  "I'm never gonna drink again". He was passed out drunk in this trailer when it caught fire and would have died had a passerby not jumped that wall and pulled him out. He spent 6 weeks in an induced coma due to his burns. A total of 2 months in the hospital. Pushed himself to get out of rehab within 2 weeks. In less than a month he was smoking again (said he wouldn't). Baby steps to old self? His behavior hasn't changed. His pity me, look at me, it's ALL her fault attitude is back already. 25 years with this Narcissist and I am 100% confident the drinking WILL happen... and soon!  To all who have fallen for his crap again and failed me, again.... don't even bother with,  "you were right". I'm done with you...