There's NEVER a Rock Bottom!

Not the 5th DUI when he went to work release for 6mo. It wasn't the 6th DUI when he spent 6mo in County. Nor the 7th DUI when he was sentenced to 2 yrs in DOC (prison - only served 1 yr). 
The image above is his most recent,  "I'm never gonna drink again". He was passed out drunk in this trailer when it caught fire and would have died had a passerby not jumped that wall and pulled him out. He spent 6 weeks in an induced coma due to his burns. A total of 2 months in the hospital. Pushed himself to get out of rehab within 2 weeks. In less than a month he was smoking again (said he wouldn't). Baby steps to old self?
His behavior hasn't changed. His pity me, look at me, it's ALL her fault attitude is back already. 25 years with this Narcissist and I am 100% confident the drinking WILL happen... and soon! 
To all who have fallen for his crap again and failed me, again.... don't even bother with,  "you were right". I'm done with you too! 

Added: I spent 5 to 6 days of those weeks, each week by his side. Praying over him. Forgiving him. So if he died, he wasn't alone. I didn't want him to feel alone. I opened my home to him when he got out for 3 weeks. Gave up my bed, slept on the couch. Came home from work, helped him shower and dressed his wounds.  I told him to leave after he said to me, "you act like I owe you" (cause he just paid $200 towards electric from his GoFundMe and wanted it back, immediately). 
Within 2 weeks I was blocked, deleted, discarded and a new "supply" was in the picture. Mind you, everyday before this he was calling and begging me to move in with him. I told him he had a lot more proving to do and this is the last thing he said to me. "Rememeber, you did this!" 

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